October 2014 | Being Jane

Friday, October 31, 2014

Everyone Likes Giveaways, Right?

Of course we do! Ali at Our Happily Ever After blog is giving away something different every day this week in honor of her birthday! Isn't that selfless of her?!

Today I am featured on her blog giving away a custom header for a Blogger-hosted blog! 

Head over and enter here!

Wednesday, October 29, 2014

Anniversary Date Night

It's 5AM and I want to sleep, yet I'm wide awake in the stillness of our bedroom. This has happened the last two mornings, and as heavy as my eyes are, my mind won't let me sleep.

This photo is a month old but I couldn't resist sharing one of our anniversary date photos ... That night was so fun and so needed. We went to dinner at Buffalo Wild Wings, raced to the movie theater next door to see Guardians of the Galaxy, and then perused Barnes and Noble until they closed. 

Those kind of dates are my favorite. They feel like the old days, when we could be spontaneous and carefree with our time.

He makes me smile. We are definitely our goofiest together, which I find comforting. Who better to be your true self with than your spouse, am I right? Before we had little ones, Daniel and I frequented the movie theater. Every movie we wanted to see, we saw. There was no waiting for Redbox.. we just went. Sometimes even double-features happened!

Sorry for the quality of these photos but I never get pictures with my guy, so these will have to do.

We happened to snag a family photo that night and I just love it. I'll leave you with it, and I hope your day is full of relaxation and whatever rejuvenation your body needs. Take that time for yourself. You deserve it.

Friday, October 24, 2014

They Come In Threes

Today I thought I would pull a "flashback Friday" of sorts, and share three of my favorite things from different categories. Remember those? We used to make MySpace "bulletins" and Facebook "notes" with those long surveys that were so fun to fill out, and you only read your friend's to see if they put your name in anywhere. So walk down memory lane with me, and if you want, share your "threes" in the comments!

Three Favorite Movies:
• Singin' in the Rain
• Pride and Prejudice
• Devil Wears Prada

Three Favorite Songs Right Now:
• Greater by MercyMe
• All of Me by John Legend
• Come With Me Now by Kongos

Three Favorite Foods:
• Pizza
• Pasta
• Chinese

Three Favorite TV Shows:
• White Collar
• Revenge
• Pretty Little Liars (I am ashamed to admit it)

Three Books I'm Reading:
• Desperate
• Snow Falling on Cedars
• Mending the Soul

Three Dislikes:
• Sushi
• Mushrooms
• Cleaning bathrooms

Okay friends, your turn! I want to hear about you now!

Monday, October 13, 2014

Mothers, I am talking to you

Good morning friends! I prayed for you this morning. All of you. As you read this I pray you feel encouraged.

You are not alone in your days, because God is always there for you even though He can feel so far away. I struggle with that most days because I want verbal responses and affirmation from Him to make me feel better.

When my frustrations are at their highest and the girls are having their worst day, all I want is to throw things and punch pillows. I can get very overwhelmed and some days it feels like my medication isn't working at all! But I know that I, and God, are bigger than these frustrations. I try to remember that each day is redeemable. Just because something has gone wrong, or if someone is in a bad mood, doesn't mean the whole day needs to continue that way. This applies to my attitude. If my attitude is poor, and I am grumpy and snappy, it doesn't mean I can't change that.

Sometimes our mornings start out wonderfully and it can be a breath of fresh air. Then by afternoon something has tipped someone off and we are all up in arms. On the other hand, other mornings start out grumpy and emotional and it looks like their is no way to salvage the day.

During those times I take a time-out. Yes, me. And I am honest with Emma, my oldest, about it. I'll usually sigh loudly and grab my hair, and that will remind me to take a long, deep breath. I'll excuse myself for a minute and step into our bedroom, take some breaths, and think about how I am the girls' teacher. I am their point of reference. I am their mom.

The Merriam Webster definition of "mother" is a woman in authority; maternal tenderness or affection. Doesn't that change how we look at our role? We are in a position of authority, and are to be full of tenderness and affection for our families. Being in an authoritative position doesn't mean we make rules and banish our children to their dungeon bedrooms. The definition of authority is the power to give orders or make decisions; the confident quality of someone who knows a lot about something or is respected and obeyed by other people. 

Isn't that cool? As mothers we are to be full of tenderness, affection, and teach our children as we walk with them through life. One of the biggest wake up calls for me as a mother is realizing that I am my child's guide. It is not my place to tell her how to think or what she should like or dislike. It is my job to teach her respect, morals, societal expectations, etc... all while guiding her to become the woman she is destined to be. Teaching her, and walking her through difficult situations and disobedience, that is my job. Not to punish. When she does something wrong, we do take time to collect our emotions and think about our actions, but we don't punish. That is a post for another day, though.

My point in all of this is that you matter. You are here for a reason. Motherhood is not just a lame lifestyle where you sit at home and clean-up messes all day. You are shaping people. You are shaping our future generations. That is a beautiful calling.

Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old is will not depart from it. -Proverbs 22:6

Only be careful, and watch yourselves closely so that you do not forget the things your eyes have seen or let them fade from your heart as long as you live. Teach them to your children and to their children after them. -Deuteronomy 4:9

Thursday, October 9, 2014

And They'll Keep On Loving Me

I am wearing my favorite pants. Getting ready to pour my favorite wine... oh wait, I finished it last night. That really stinks! I have four shows waiting for me to press play, and thankfully tonight's homework was easy and is submitted. Wait... is that the distant wail of an infant? Sometimes having the two girls share a room is harder than I expected... especially when the older one doesn't go to bed quietly and wakes the younger one from overdue, blissful sleep!

I have had no patience today. None. It makes me feel AWFUL. I had a moment of sheer anger and frustration at myself (thankfully alone, lol) and threw all the laundry on the floor.

"Ooooo... she's so scary! She threw laundry on the floor!"

Seriously. I was mad. And it was there. And I was mad at it. So I threw it all on the ground. I'm not apart of this system.

Unfortunately I had to pick it all up later. The plight of a homemaker. Don't make a mess you don't want to clean up, right? At least it was easier than picking up food off of the floor.

Do you ever explode? Do you ever get so angry at the to-do list and the mess and the lack of patience that you boil over? After I leaned my head against the wall and took some deep breaths, I walked out of my room like I had just taken a short trip to the bathroom, and the girls smiled up at me. Emma said "Look mom! My baby is going down the slide!"... and Audrey walked towards me with her arms up to be held.

They had no clue I had been fuming minutes before. They love me. I'm their mother. They need me. I teach them how to grow up "right" (whatever that is), and I feed them healthy food so they can actually do all of that growing and learning that I am supposed to make happen...

I got down on my knees and looked at Emma. I said "I'm sorry I got mad earlier"... and she said "That's ok mom! I love you!".

My heart melted. I asked her to forgive me, and she said "Can we hug now?"... so we had our Full House moment. And that was that.

She still loved me.

Wednesday, October 8, 2014

Love Dare - Day 3 - Love Is Not Selfish

Be devoted to one another in brotherly love;
give preference to one another in honor. -- Romans 12:10

Love is not selfish. That is tough to swallow when you're thinking of yourself in a relationship, because the most common thing we start to think in relationships is "what about my feelings?"... "what about my needs?"...

God wants us to serve our spouse/significant other. That doesn't mean waiting on them hand and foot, or not standing up for ourselves, but it means being positive and encouraging in their efforts to excel in life.. it means taking care of them as we want them to take care of us.. it means putting our wants on the backburner to devote our energy to their wants. By doing so they are more likely to feel appreciated and loved, and more likely to want  to dote on us as well. If your partner doesn't give you attention, respect, or love, do you feel more inclined to treat them that way or does it make you want to ignore them as well? When they are kind and loving to you, and take your needs into account, does that make you want to do the same?

I am convicted of this. When my husband isn't doing what I want him to do for me, I don't want to do things for him. When I don't take care of him, he doesn't want to take care of me. That is a normal feeling. Neglect and selfishness fuels discontent, frustration, and hardened hearts. Love, attention, and affirmation fuels romance and joy in a relationship. 

If you haven't watched Fireproof yet, I challenge you to do so this week. Even if you feel your marriage is wonderful and not struggling in the slightest, it is a GREAT reminder of how things can spiral if we aren't careful to tend to our marriage. Also, take the Love Dare Assessment here. It opened my eyes to the areas that I need to work on. That will improve my marriage as well, if I am actively pursuing positive change in my actions. 

This post is apart of a 40-day Love Dare series that has been put together by Tausha at Taush.O, and each day there is a printable with that day's dare on it. Tausha will be posting all of the printables on her blog each Sunday, and a different blogger will be expanding on each dare on their personal blogs each day of the week. Join in and improve your marriage along with all of us! 

Tuesday, October 7, 2014

Custom Blogger Design Giveaway!

If you haven't seen my announcement on Instagram last week, I will let you in on my new business venture here!

I am officially in the blog design business! For now I am only offering Blogger designs, and I would love for you to enter to win a complete custom package! Enter the giveaway below and good luck! If you want to see an example of my designs check out my very own blog design, as I made it myself!

If you're interested in any of my Blogger design options please email me at beingjaneblog@gmail.com and I would love to chat with you about your needs! Thanks for stopping by and please think of me next time you need something done on your awesome blog!

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This giveaway runs from October 7th at 12am MST until October 14th at 12am MST! Open to U.S. Residents only, and only Blogger designs can be created for the winner. Ages 18&up only. This giveaway is sponsored by Leanne, and no other social media site is affiliated. Prize valued at $30.